Stuck on the Parenthood Decision? The Real Reason Isn't What You Think

If the parenthood decision has had you circling the same questions for months, here's something I want you to hear: the problem isn't that you haven't thought hard enough.

What if I can't afford it? 

What if I'm not cut out for it? 

What if I make the wrong choice and regret it? 

What if circumstances change?

Here's what I want you to understand: that kind of thinking isn't getting you closer to an answer. It's keeping your anxiety activated. And it will keep doing that indefinitely — because those questions don't have answers you can think your way into. 

They're about matters that are, by definition, out of your control.

Watch as I share more:

How to Decide Whether to Have a Baby When Everything Feels Out of Your Control 

What I've found in over 30 years of doing this work is that the fear isn't really about the things it attaches to. It's about fear itself. 

The "what ifs" are just the places anxiety lands — they're not the source of it.

So what do we do instead? We put those fears to the sidelines — not to ignore them, but to stop letting them run the show — and we turn our attention inward. We look at what inside of you actually needs attention. And when we do that, something shifts. You develop a new relationship to those fears. They stop feeling like walls and start feeling like information.

This  information is exactly what my Parenthood Clarity Process is designed to surface. It’s about finding the small pieces of information you didn't know were there — but that have been shaping your indecision all along.

If you're ready to stop asking "what if" and make a decision once and for all, I'd love to guide you there.

You can start here:

• Access these Free Resources
• Read the book I co-wrote with Denise L. Carlini, Motherhood-Is It For Me?
• Explore one of my courses — Motherhood Clarity™ Course, Fatherhood Clarity™ Course, or the Parenthood Clarity™ Private Course.
• You can also check out our NEW Digital courses and programs: Motherhood Clarity™  DIGITAL Course, Fatherhood Clarity™ DIGTAL Course, or the On Demand Weekend Workshop, Is Parenthood for you?
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